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People ask me what I do in winter when there's no baseball. I'll tell you what I do. I stare out the window and wait for spring. –Rogers Hornsby, St. Louis Cardinals et al, 1915-1937
This Spiritual Life: thoughts on God, faith and meaning from a local church minister and teacher
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Unprecedented! What else is there to say?
When I was new to professional writing, I had an annoying literary habit of using words so often that they’d lose their true meaning, get watered down by repetition. Thus, when I brought a draft article to my editor, she looked it over and read that I’d used the word “crucial” six times in the first three paragraphs. “John if you say something is ‘crucial’ over and over it loses its punch. Everything can’t be crucial. The spare use of ‘crucial’ gives it power as a descriptor.”
Mimi was an excellent teacher of rhetoric and so I wish I could ask her today about my use of the word ‘unprecedented’ and our use of the word ‘unprecedented’ as a culture. In the breathless and full volume media reports that scream out to us from our phones, computers, TVs, and radios, stories inevitably talking about the…unprecedented. You could say it’s unprecedented how often we have been describing things as of late as unprecedented.
Like a million cases of COVID on just one January day in our United States of America. That’s unprecedented. How about an attempted violent insurrection that sought to overturn a legitimate national election, something never, ever seen before in our history. Yes, unprecedented, as is the weird and scary fact that a year later upwards of ten percent of our fellow citizens think that same insurrection was led, not by supporters of the former President, but instead by left wing fascists. I kid you not. Their beliefs? Unprecedented.
But wait. There’s more!
Can anything top Tom Brady gunning for an amazing eighth Super Bowl ring at the grand old age of 44? No other quarterback has won even close to that number. Terry Bradshaw and Joe Montana won four…ho hum. When I was 44, it got me out of breath just getting up off the couch during a Patriots game to grab another oversized plate of nachos. Hurt my arm lifting the sour cream container. But Brady and his seemingly invincible body? Unprecedented. As is the weather and climate change, like the fact that the summer of 2021 was the hottest ever in the history of temperature record keeping in this world.
Yes, it all seems so unprecedented.
Unprecedented is one of those words it’s hard to find a substitute for. Unbelievable? Not quite the same. Unequaled, unparalleled, or unrivaled? Getting warm. How about bizarre? Closer. Fantastic? Maybe. Yet no other word seems to come close to matching the smack and the pop of calling something unprecedented.
But even if we are speechless, wordless, in the face of the intensity of the past few years, my hope and prayer is that in these unprecedented times, we won’t be beaten down or exhausted or become apathetic. That’s the danger of these days of living at such full volume. That it will plain wear us out. That it will tempt us to throw up our hands in frustration and say, “I can’t do anything about it all anyway!” That worst of all, we might become apathetic or cynical about the state of our world right now and so roll over and just go back to bed.
Not me! Not you, I hope, either.
Unprecedented times instead call for unprecedented action. Is democracy threatened? Then get out and vote and become more active in the political process. Worried about how divided we are as a nation? Reach out to and then actually listen to another, whose views are different than your own. They may have something to teach you. Worn out by all the machinations and gyrations when it comes to COVID? Get vaxxed if you are not. Wear a mask religiously. Take all the health precautions you can in the knowledge that when you do so, it is not just for you. It is also for your neighbor, for the stranger, and the faster and more faithfully we all do our part, the faster COVID will finally, one great and glorious day, be gone.
My faith challenges me to live with such courage and commitment, especially in unprecedented times. To live with hope for better days, especially in tough times. To live with good humor and put all things in perspective. To live to fight another day. We can do it. We must do it.
So, I dare you. Be unprecedented in how you live this day.
After all, it was just a year ago that a violent mob stormed the Capitol and tried to overturn a legitimate election for the only time in our history. Sheesh. Violent crime is up in many places and everything costs more and just when we think we might be able to jump off this crazy train, something else happens. Right now it is all too easy to grow weary or worse, cynical, about the state of our world and the human condition.
But then you hear about someone like Davyon, a child (!) who just does the right thing, who steps up with courage and service to help others and reminds us that most folks in his world are, in fact, good. Good of soul and good of character. That most people want the best for their loved ones and neighbors and strangers too. That most of us, when challenged with the specter of someone in need or hurting or in need of a little kindness: we will do the right thing.
You might read those sentiments and dismiss them as clueless idealism. Maybe you want to stubbornly hang on to a dim view of humanity, see all the bad in our world right. I guess you could be forgiven for such an attitude. We are all spiritually weary right now, battered by too many months of bad news.
And yet, given the choice? I will continue to seek the good and to see the good. To celebrate the best of human behavior and look for the saints like Davyon, everyday people doing extraordinary things, doing the right thing, and all to make this world a better place. My God and my beliefs tell me it is always better to light one candle rather than curse the darkness. There is still so much good to do and good to find in others if only we look with hearts of faith.
Give us your best, 2022. With folks like Davyon to lead the way, it just might be a very, very good year, to do the right thing.
“Holy darkness, blessed night, heaven's answer hidden from our sight. As we await you, O God of silence, we embrace your holy night.” –Dan Schutte, “Holy Darkness”
Last December I fell in love with walking in the dark in my suburban neighborhood.
I was six months out from a hip replacement, not quite fully healed, feeling stuck in my recovery and so I decided to take a daily walk at day’s end. My hope was that by getting up from the couch and getting outdoors and using my brand-new hip, the lingering pain and stiffness might finally be gone. And I did get better, step by step.
But the real revelation of those journeys after sundown, and all the endless circles I walked in my cul-de-sac laden neighborhood, was my discovery of just how beautiful the dark finally is, especially December dark. Like the dark that contains the glow of moonlight on a full moon night. The dark that surrounds all the colorful holiday lights on house after house after house, blinking and bursting forth in mellow whites and colorful reds and greens and blues and yellows. How sublime is the darkness I see in an ink black night sky that takes my breath away, so many stars spilled across the sky like a bucket of milk, like a milky way. I love the dark that embraces the one light in my living room, a quiet light that shines down into the street and reminds me that I am almost home again.
If you are into the dark, this is your time of year.
Just this week, on the 21st day, was winter solstice, at 10:59 am Eastern Standard Time. At that exact moment, the sun was at its farthest southerly point in its angle towards the earth, hence the shortness of the day: sunrise at 7:10 am, sunset at 4:15 pm. Just nine hours, four minutes, and thirty-five seconds of light. The next day we gained two seconds and began our long journey back into the light, which will peak on summer solstice, next June 21st when we will bask in more than 15 hours of the light.
This is where I’m supposed to kvetch about the dark and the cold of December. It’s almost a cliché in these parts of the world to complain about the winter and the dark and the snow and to pine for summer and the light, and the sun. I might have done so in years’ past but this December? I say bring on the dark. I say celebrate the dark. I say love the dark.
The dark gets a bad and undeserved rap in our culture and language. The bad guy always wears a dark hat, and the dark is where nefarious folks hang out to do their dark deeds. The dark is about shadows, places we can’t see and therefore are supposed to be afraid of. Bruce Springsteen laments about “Darkness on the Edge of Town” and Batman is so threatening as the Dark Knight and…well you get the picture. The dark always seems to be seen as malevolent. Bad. Look up the word “dark” in a dictionary and almost all the synonyms for it are downright, well, dark: dingy, gloomy, dire, and dreadful, to name but a few.
But the dark…it is where we spend the first nine months of our lives, in the darkness of our mother’s womb. It’s in the dark where God shapes us, where we come to be as human beings. Before the world was, it was first full of darkness and without form, as the Bible notes. No dark. No creation. No life. The dark is where we will spend half of our lives, in the night, in the twilight. Nature needs the dark: more than 60 percent of invertebrate and 30 percent of vertebrate creatures are nocturnal, and hunt, forage and live in the dark. And in my faith tradition, three wise men from the east needed a dark night sky with one blazing star up above, to find a little baby who would grow up to change the world forever.
December dark.
Maybe instead of seeing this time of year as a burden or something to be put up with on the way to “blessed” spring and summer, perhaps we might reconsider. See the darkness as our friend. Explore the darkness and discover what we might not have paid attention to before. So, this month, I say, thank you December, for the dark. Thank you for inviting us in. The light will return soon enough, but for now?
Who wants to take a walk?
You’re allowed one freak out, just one. Get it out of your system. Do what you must.
Yes, in response to the latest COVID variant to visit our already angst and fear filled world, go ahead. Yell and scream. Jump up and down. Ball your fists tight and scrunch up your face in a scowl and snort with anger and frustration. Throw something—but please be careful! I don’t know—hit a pillow?! Let out an exasperated dramatic sigh. Swear with your best obscenities, the ones you reserve for special occasions but please make there are no young’uns within listening distance.
There. Feel better?
I hope so because at this point in our twenty-two plus month COVID journey, we can’t afford to spend too much time kvetching, complaining, moaning, whining, or freaking out about variant number 354 to come down the path. Okay, I pulled that number out of thin air, but it certainly feels like that is how many times we’ve had to zig, zag, adapt, shift, and change our behavior in response to a new variant, a surge in cases or overcrowded hospitals, since this whole nightmare began in March of 2020.
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), there are, in fact, five variants we’ve had to keep a close eye on, all named after Greek numbers: alpha, beta, gamma, delta and the latest, omicron. As I write this essay, scientists are scrambling to figure out just how virulent this latest version of COVID is, how the present vaccines will work against it, and what that will mean for all of us. It’s like déjà vu all over again.
To be honest, I am tempted to panic, to be swept up in the now familiar media frenzy at this latest COVID threat. Maybe I should go out and buy more toilet paper or more home test kits or maybe I should cancel my trip to Florida later this month. Maybe I should lockdown my life again, close the doors, park the car in the driveway, and wait it out until this current threat runs its course.
Or maybe not.
Because then I remember (and recommend we all do as well): we’ve done this before and we did pretty well, and we can, and we will do it again. We know how to distance and how to mask, how important it is to be vaccinated, and now to also get a booster. We know how to work from home and our kids know the drill at school. Most of us have worked out in our minds the level of risk we are willing to take as we seek to live as “normally” as possible.
We can do it! Absolutely.
One of the lessons my faith has taught me is that of being resilient, enduring the toughest of times and not being overcome by whatever life throws my way. Resilience teaches us to be calm, to put our heads down and to move ahead. And so, I pray and hope for the wisdom to lean into the toughest of situations, depend upon others for help and then turn to a power greater than myself to put life into perspective. I think of the generations that came before and faced and overcame what threatened them in their times, in their history. War. Depression. Polio. Social upheaval. They somehow found the strength to keep calm and to carry on. They kept on keeping on. They kept the faith. They did what they had to do. And they got through.
So can we. So will we! Just remember one strategy, one defiant act of resilience, to stay the course, and to live life well and live it fully, despite COVID.
Don’t panic.
"In our rushing, bulls in china shops, we break our own lives.”
--Ann Voskamp
And….it’s begun.
The rush. The dash, The sprint. The marathon. You know, the race so many of us as Americans undertake each year, from the day before Thanksgiving to the day after New Year’s. For a time that barely adds up to 11 percent of a given year, just forty days, we certainly try and cram as much as we can in between these two holidays, this extended season of the holy and the holly.
What might we call this shared frenzy so many of us undertake come late November? This orgy of shopping and baking, travelling, buying, wrapping, decorating, eating, drinking, and partying? How about the Turkey trot? The holiday hullabaloo? The December derby or perhaps…Santa’s sleigh ride from “h-e double toothpicks.” (Look it up.)
I know I sound overly dramatic, but if you drive anywhere these December days and run into bumper-to-bumper traffic or if you visit a packed mall or if you try and finish all your end of year stuff at work or when you struggle to plan for visits with family and friends…well. It is as if overnight, the culture goes from fifty-five miles an hour on pre-Turkey day to ninety miles an hour and then it does not slow down until the new year finally arrives.
This is not just experienced by folks like me, who “do” the holidays for a living: clergy, people in retail, restaurant employees, package delivery drivers, postal service employees, and transportation workers. So many of us are forced to climb all board the speeding holiday train and then not be able to get off it, until early next month.
There’s lots of reasons for this.
Businesses, especially after COVID: these depend on you and me opening our wallets and spending big bucks. According to the National Retail Federation, Americans spent $650 on average for holiday gifts in 2020. That doesn’t include travel or eating out or decorations. That’s a lot of money, especially if you are on a fixed income, at the lower end of the pay scale or are out of work. For those of less means, it must be hard to see all those sparkly and joyful advertisements for consumption that promise happiness, but if only we spend. And even if we do have the means to shop ‘til we drop, there’s always the risk of having a wicked debt hangover post-holiday.
I’m no Scrooge. I am not anti-holiday cheer. I love silver bells! I love singing “The Twelve Days of Christmas” at the top of my lungs. FIVE GOLDEN RINGS!! Love time off to be with folks I love. Cherish holiday carols, hymns, and rituals. But at this point in my life, what I most desire can’t be found in a Macy’s box or at the bottom of a glass of eggnog or on a calendar packed to the hilt with so many things to do. December busyness, for me, does not equal meaning, and not just now, but all year long. Buying does not bring me happiness. Overwork no longer feels like a badge of honor.
Instead, this is what I want for the holidays.
I’d like it if the world actually worked towards what is central to the message and story of my faith tradition: peace on earth and goodwill towards all people. That’d be a great gift. I’d like to slow down this month, pull within spiritually, pray more, listen more for the quiet of December. Days grow darker and the nights stretch out longer and the air chills and the snow falls upon a silent night. That would be nice. What I really hope for is that after two years of being away from my circle of love at Christmas, that this year we will be able to gather. To eat around a cozy table and to tell the same old corny jokes and revisit trustworthy traditions and remember just how much we need one another.
I’d be thrilled if more folks could appreciate and enjoy the religious traditions celebrated right now: ancient tales of wisdom and sacred music that makes the spirit soar. Whether or not you have a faith to claim, I hope we can all find some deeper meaning in the holidays. Some spirit of hope that lasts throughout the year. A remembrance that giving is so much more important than getting.
Okay. I got it out of my system. My holiday lament. My yuletide kvetch.
Now I will try my best to relax and really enjoy the sweet and beautiful days ahead, and to do so at a sane and sober pace. And I pray and hope that you too will find your sacred and cherished place in the world, at this holy time of year.